Dad Has Left the Building

Well, the boys' dad was here for all of a month. Now he's gone. He left yesterday to move across the state and start a new life - oops, I mean job.

He says he is going there to work for a "few months" to earn some money then he will be back to participate daily in the lives of his children. He very clearly does not want to be married to their mother any longer, which is fine. But to pack up and leave his kids? Again?

Poor J is devastated to say the least. This will scar that boy far more than his mother's drinking and the consequences of it. Both boys were ecstatic that their father was finally here, ready to be part of their lives. They had hopes and dreams of how life was going to be once they could be home and have their dad with them. Especially J - he has a certain bond with his dad that goes deep. Both boys are upset and sad, but J is crushed to the core.

So here we are, left to pick up the pieces of his decision to leave. We have to comfort them and dry their tears. We have to try to explain to little boys why their father has left them.

I come back to my theme of this entire ordeal. We must focus. Focus on these kids, on the task at hand. Focus on helping mom to continue on the right path (she's doing great, by the way) to reunify with her boys. She can do this, we have faith.

Focus. And soldier on. For the boys.