One Month Today

Time seems to be going by quickly. We took our first weekend camping trip since getting J and M, and it went very well. We all had a great time! Of course, they had been camping with us a couple of times before so they knew what to expect. I must say it was nice to get away and take advantage of the gorgeous weather we are having.

I got a call from their mom on the way home this afternoon. She wanted to let us know that she had found out last summer that their dad had been cheating on her and had actually had a relationship with a woman for a year and a half. When it ended, the woman contacted the boys' mom and let her know everything. Including the month-long trip they took together to Cancun and the extensive amount of time she had spent with the boys while they were living there.

Their mom wanted to try and work things out and still live as a family, but their dad has made it very clear to her that he only wants to get his Visa and has no intention of living with her or mending their relationship. So she has finally "let go of the dream" (her words, not mine - I would have referred to it as more of a nightmare) and decided that as soon as he arrives in the U.S. she will file for divorce. They each say they are going to fight for full custody of the boys.

This is a game-changer in so many ways. First of all, I'm not confident that either one of them can provide for and care for the boys on their own. Second of all, this is going to get nasty between them. Third, my heart breaks for J and M. It really is their dream that is dying.

I told my husband that we really need to prepare ourselves. If neither parent can get their act together (they are both required to take alcohol and parenting classes before being considered to parent these kids), we may end up having them permanently. Which may not be a bad thing.